I remember the first time I was really at the end of my rope. It felt like it would never happen to me, and then there I was, stuck with no way out. The thing about being at the end of your rope is that you’re not just one person’s problem–you’re everybody else’s too. They all want to help, but they don’t know how or what they can do for you. You need to find a way out so everyone can move on and be happy again…but where does one start?
This article will tell you: 10 steps what to do when you are at the end of your rope!
You are not alone.
It’s easy to feel like you are the only person in the world who is feeling like this. It can be lonely when you’re at your lowest point, but there are other people out there who understand and will want to help you find a way out of whatever it is that has you feeling so hopeless. If you keep trying, eventually someone will take notice and reach out.
Write down what’s wrong.
By taking time to sit down and type (or write) all of your problems on paper or on a word document, you give yourself an immediate sense of relief simply because what was weighing you down is now quantifiable on some level by someone else (even if they aren’t of everything yet). Make sure to include how you feel about everything, because this gives others the ability to try to put themselves into your shoes and see what it’s like for you.
Identify where your feelings are coming from.
When someone is at their worst point emotionally, they can’t do much sense-making of anything. Try not to judge yourself too harshly–you only trip up when you know why you feel so bad but still can’t seem to help yourself. Sit down and give yourself time to really think through your problems–when did they start? What else could be causing this sadness? What other feelings might be related (anger, guilt)? How does all of this come together as one big problem? These sorts of questions force you to step outside of your head and look from a different perspective.
Identify what you think the solutions are.
There isn’t much use in thinking about everything that’s wrong or everything that needs to change if you don’t have an idea of how to go about it. While there might not be a definite answer, brainstorming all your ideas will help you get a better overall picture of things and maybe find some good starting points for yourself or others to take action on. It’s also helpful to see through other people’s eyes when they share their views with you–you never know, someone else might have been stuck at the same place as you were but tackled it from a completely different angle! See if their suggestions ring true for you.
Identify what’s holding you back.
What are the things that keep you from moving forward with your ideas or finding ways to solve these problems? What fears do you have of trying? If all else fails, ask yourself “what is the absolute worst thing that could happen if I tried this?” Although this can be difficult to answer, it will at least give you something concrete to think about so at the very least you don’t feel intimidated by fear of failure too much.
Create a plan of action.
And finally, here is where it starts getting better! Sit down and try figuring out how everything fits together–which parts need immediate attention first or what kind of timeline would work best for tackling everything step-by-step. The most important thing about this step is not to be afraid of setting small goals for yourself and seeing them through! Everyone doubts themselves, but you will make your way out eventually if you keep on trying and don’t give up.
Try something new.
Even though life might feel like a mess right now, there are probably still things that interest or excite you that have nothing to do with all the problems going on–you just haven’t gotten around to doing it yet! Keep a list of fun things nearby so whenever you need a boost of motivation, look at what else is out there waiting for you! If even reading isn’t really an option right now due to limited concentration, try taking the time to listen to a podcast or audio book instead!
Talk about it with someone you trust.
If there’s one thing that everyone knows, it’s that talking is good for the soul–it doesn’t matter if it’s in person, through text or on the phone: just get things off your chest and let others know how you feel so they can help out. Not only will this give you a better idea of what course of action to take next, but also remind yourself that there are people who care about you and want the best for you too! Even though some might not understand completely what you’re going through, chances are there is at least someone out there who has been in your shoes before and has advice to share with you.
Do something for yourself.
Even if it’s just a walk around the block or watching your favorite movie, taking time to focus on you and what makes YOU happy will help keep your spirits up! It doesn’t matter how big or small of an act this is–the most important thing is that you choose something that brings you joy whenever you are feeling down (or if not joy, then perhaps some other positive feelings like relaxation or calmness). Everyone has different things they like to do when they want to feel better about themselves, so give yourself space and freedom in finding out what works for you!
Be patient with yourself.
Everyone falls down sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get back up again soon! There is no need to feel guilty about the mistakes you’ve made in the past or afraid of not knowing what will happen next–simply focus on being an active part of your life and making things better for yourself month by month. If you have people around who support and care about your well-being, then odds are there is a bright future ahead one way or another! Even if a lot of time has passed since whatever it was that put you at the end of your rope, don’t be afraid to examine how you got from where you started to where you are today. What were some lessons learned along the way? How did others help and support you? Now that you know better, how will things change moving forward to help prevent past mistakes from happening again?
Above all, it is important to remember that no matter how big or small your problems are, there is always a way out–it just might take some looking! Although this might not be the most straightforward path in life you have taken, rest assured that things will get better with time. So when you’re at the end of your rope , keep on trying and keep on working towards being happy!