10 Tips How To Be There For Someone You Love

Loving someone is a big responsibility – and one that most people don’t take lightly. In fact, many of us will do anything for the ones we love. That might mean putting in long hours at work to provide financial stability; staying up all night when they have nightmares; or even taking on household responsibilities while they recover from surgery. Whatever it takes, right?

But what happens when there isn’t an obvious way to help? What if your loved one has depression and can’t get out of bed; struggles with addiction; or is going through a tough time because of job loss or divorce? It can be hard to know how best to support someone you love during these challenging times – but fortunately there are a few things you can do.

Listen with an open heart and mind

When someone is going through a tough time, they often just want someone to listen to them. So be there for them – put your phone away, turn off the TV and really focus on what they are saying. Allow them to express their feelings without judgement, and if they need advice or suggestions, offer those too. But don’t try to fix everything – that’s not your job. Just being there for them is often the most important thing you can do.

Be compassionate

Your loved one is probably feeling a range of intense emotions, from sadness and fear to anger and frustration. So it’s important to be compassionate – to let them know that you understand how they feel, and that you are there for them. Expressing compassion can help your loved one feel supported and understood, which can in turn make them feel a bit better.

Offer practical help

Your loved one may be feeling stressed and overwhelmed – which means that they may actually benefit from some practical help. It might mean picking up their kids from school; making dinner; or even doing the laundry. If you can’t physically do it, offer to take on a household task (like emptying the dishwasher) so your loved one has more time to focus on what’s important.

Let them know you love them

Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, and we become frustrated with others, especially those we love. So if your patience is wearing thin (and this is completely normal), try to take a step back and remind yourself that this person needs your support right now – whether it feels that way or not. In the end, love is what really matters – and letting your loved one know that you care can make a world of difference.

Take care of yourself

Supporting your loved one does come with certain responsibilities – but it’s important to remember that you can’t serve others if you aren’t taking good care of yourself too. That means exercising regularly; eating well; spending time outside; getting enough sleep; and making sure you have people around to support you when times get tough too.

Don’t give up

It can be really tempting to give up when your loved one is going through a tough time – after all, it’s a lot of work supporting them. But don’t give up on them! Just because things are difficult right now doesn’t mean they will always be this way. Keep supporting them, even when it feels like it’s too hard, and remind them that you will always be there for them.

If the situation changes, change with it

Times are tough, but they aren’t always going to be this way. So if things start to improve for your loved one, don’t stop supporting them – just because their problems are now “solved” doesn’t mean that they won’t need you again in the future. Seek professional help or advice if necessary, and continue to offer your love and support as often as possible. In the end knowing you have a great friend who will always be there can make a real difference!

Know when it’s time to let go

It’s important to also know when it’s time to let go – which might mean accepting that your loved one is now in a better place, and doesn’t need your support as much as they used to. Don’t be afraid to end the relationship if it feels like it’s becoming more harmful than helpful – after all, you want your loved one to be happy, not just supported.

Be patient

Remember to be patient with yourself too. Letting go of a difficult relationship can be hard – which makes it easy to put off. But try not to let your fear stop you from being the best friend possible. If this person really is as important as they say they are, then trust that you will know what the right time is eventually! In the meantime, just focus on being there for them as much as you can – and have faith that everything else will sort itself out in time.

Seek professional help

If you feel like you can’t handle supporting your loved one by yourself, or if their problems seem to be getting worse, it might be time to seek professional help. This doesn’t mean that you don’t love them enough – it just means that you need some extra support in order to continue being there for them. There are many different kinds of professionals who can help, so don’t be afraid to ask around or do some research until you find the right one for you.


We all need support at times in our lives – so if a loved one is going through a tough time right now, don’t hesitate to do whatever you can to help them. Remember that it won’t always be easy, but your support is invaluable to them. Just be there for them; offer love, compassion and practical help; and have faith that things will get better in time. Thanks for reading!