You know what they say: “If you don’t love yourself, who will?”
But loving oneself is not always easy. We live in a society that puts people down and makes us feel like we’re not good enough to be loved. It can be hard to find the motivation to care about ourselves when everyone else doesn’t seem to. That’s why it’s important for all of us to learn how we can love ourselves more.
Here are 13 keys to loving yourself:
Stop comparing yourself to others.
It’s so easy to scroll through our social media feeds and feel like we’re not good enough because everyone seems to be living such perfect lives. But the truth is, nobody is perfect. We all have our own struggles and nobody’s life is as glamorous as it seems on social media. So stop comparing yourself to others and start focusing on your own journey.
Stop expecting people to love you.
Seriously, it’s not anyone else’s job to make sure that you’re happy and loved in life. If they aren’t meeting your standards for what a good friend or partner should be, then maybe they aren’t something worth having around in your life anymore. At the end of the day only you can give yourself love and happiness, so focus on loving yourself instead of chasing after someone else who doesn’t reciprocate it back to you.
Stop thinking that you’re not good enough for anything nice.
You deserve to be treated well and to feel loved. You deserve nice clothes, a great job, awesome friends… whatever it is that makes your heart happy! Don’t think you don’t have the right to be given these things or that they aren’t within your grasp because guess what? They totally are. Don’t talk yourself down like that ever again.
Start writing in a journal every day.
Sometimes we can ramble on about our thoughts and feelings subconsciously without even realizing it – but usually the things we write down end up being pretty insightful (or unintentionally hysterical). Either way, it’s important to get those thoughts out of your head so you can start to see yourself more objectively. Plus, it’s a great way to document your journey and track your progress.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
We’re always beating ourselves up with comments like “ugh, I look so fat in these jeans” or “I’m so stupid for not getting this right.” But it’s important to recognize that you are perfect just the way you are – even if your jeans fit a little too snugly around the waist. It’s totally fine to have goals and dreams of where you want to be or what you want to achieve, but remember that no one has a perfect life. If they tell you otherwise, then they’re lying!
Stop being afraid of trying new things because you might fail.
It doesn’t matter how many times we fall down because let’s face it: We all need practice learning how to get back up again. The only way to learn and grow is to try new things, even if you might not be good at them the first time around. And don’t forget: Failing is a part of life, so you might as well embrace it!
Start spending more time with yourself.
It can be really hard to find time for ourselves when we’re always so busy taking care of everyone else, but it’s really important to make some “me” time every single day. Whether you want to read a book, take a walk in nature, watch your favorite movie or just relax in silence – make sure you’re carving out some time each day to focus on you.
Start accepting compliments graciously.
When someone pays you a compliment, it’s important to accept it with grace and thank them for it. Don’t brush it off or try to downplay it because that’s not what self-loving people do. When we’re kind to ourselves, we allow others the space to be kind to us as well.
Start forgiving yourself for your mistakes.
Nobody’s perfect and you’re definitely not the first person to make a mistake. You can’t keep beating yourself up and punishing yourself for it because that’s not going to benefit anybody. Instead, you should acknowledge your mistake and learn from it so you’re never going to make the same mistake twice!
Start embracing all of the things that make you special and unique.
There are plenty of things about ourselves that we probably don’t like or love (our nose, our weight, etc.) but instead of focusing on what we don’t like, why not spend some time trying to embrace what makes us different? Who knows, maybe somewhere out there is someone who has always wanted a nose just like yours? Plus, everybody is beautiful in their own way. You just have to find your version of beauty!
Start speaking to yourself in a more positive and supportive way.
It can be really easy to slip into negative self-talk mode, but that’s not going to do anybody any good. So start being more mindful of the things you say to yourself and try to replace the negative statements with something more positive and supportive. For example, “I’m so glad I tried my best” instead of “I’m such a failure.”
Start taking care of your body by eating healthy foods and exercising regularly.
When we take care of our bodies, we’re also taking care of our minds and our spirits. Eating healthy foods and exercising regularly has been scientifically proven to make us happier, more productive people. It’s definitely worth making the time for it in your schedule!
Start visualizing yourself being happier and more content.
The power of visualization is real and it can be really helpful when you’re working on self-love. Spend a few minutes every day picturing yourself being happy, peaceful and content. See yourself surrounded by positive people and things that make you happy. The more you do this, the more likely it is to become a reality!
If you’re finding it hard to love yourself, don’t worry – you’re definitely not alone. But with a little effort, you can start making small changes that will lead you down a happier path. Just remember that self-love is an ongoing journey, so don’t get discouraged if you fall off track every now and then. Just get back up and keep moving forward!