19 How (and Why) We All Fail in Life

The world is full of people who are succeeding at something. It’s easy to get wrapped up in trying to live up to other people’s expectations of who we should be, but sometimes there are things about us that could use some work. Let’s think about why these failures happen and what we could do to avoid them happening again!

We compare ourselves to others

It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others. We want to feel like we’re doing well, and it’s easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing. But remember that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and you can’t compare yourself to someone else and expect to come out on top.

We put too much pressure on ourselves

Trying to succeed can be hard enough, but when we add the pressure of our own expectations, it becomes even harder. Sometimes we set goals for ourselves that are impossible to achieve, and then we’re left feeling disappointed and frustrated. It’s important to remember that it’s okay not to be perfect, and that failure is part of life.

We expect too much in return

Sometimes we give up on things that are important to us because we expect nothing in return, or not enough in return. Not everyone is going to appreciate what you’re doing for them, and it’s hard when you put all your effort into something and don’t get anything back. Make sure you take the time to realize when you deserve more than what you’re getting!

We try our best instead of trying our hardest

It’s great to always do your best, but remember that sometimes your best isn’t good enough. “Best” implies average – if someone asks how you did on a test, they’ll probably be happy if you say “I did my best.” But if someone asks how you did on a test and what your grade was, they’re probably going to be disappointed if you say “I did my best,” without elaborating further. Always try your hardest, because it might make the difference between a good and bad result!

We fail to plan ahead

Failing to plan is basically planning to fail. If you don’t have a map for where you’re going, how will you know how far down the wrong path you’ve gone? When we don’t plan ahead, we leave ourselves open for all kinds of mistakes that could have been easily avoided had we just taken some time in advance to think things through.

We give up too easily

Giving up is one of the easiest things to do, but it’s also one of the most harmful. If we give up on our dreams, or on people we care about, we’re only hurting ourselves in the end. It’s important to remember that no matter how hard things get, we should never give up on what we want out of life.

We don’t take risks

Living a risk-free life might seem like a good idea, but it can actually be quite limiting in the long run. When we don’t take risks, we’re not giving ourselves the opportunity to experience new things and grow as people. Sometimes it’s okay to step out of our comfort zone and take a chance, even if it might not work out in the end.

We procrastinate

Procrastination is one of the biggest causes of failure. When we put off doing something until later, there’s a good chance that it won’t get done at all. And even if it does get done, it probably won’t be as good as it could have been if we’d started on it sooner. It’s important to remember that time is precious, and we should use it wisely!

We don’t live for ourselves

It’s very easy to get caught up in living for someone else – whether it’s a parent, child, partner or friend – but is that really living? It might seem like you’re doing something nice by sacrificing your own goals and dreams for another person, but when you put yourself last in life you’ll never be happy with what you do have. Try thinking about the thing in life that makes you truly happy and do more of it!

We go with the flow instead of making things happen

Going with the flow makes life easy – it’s comfortable and predictable. But sometimes there are opportunities that only come once in a lifetime because they don’t happen very often. It’s important to remember that just because something is difficult doesn’t mean it isn’t worth doing, and that amazing things can happen when you fight for them!

We try to please too many people

It’s good to consider other people’s feelings, but sometimes we take it too far and change our own views just so that we don’t hurt other people’s feelings. Remember that you’re the one whose life it is; no one else gets to decide what you think and feel, but you. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself!

We give up on making friends

Making new friends as an adult can be difficult, but it doesn’t mean we should give up trying. Sometimes reaching out and putting ourselves ‘out there’ can pay off in ways we never thought possible! Even if a friendship doesn’t work out quite how we envisioned it, sometimes people become better acquaintances than they would have been friends.

We stop believing in ourselves

It’s important to have faith in ourselves, otherwise why bother going through life at all? When we believe in ourselves, we’re much more likely to be able to accomplish the things we want to do. It’s easy to lose our faith when things get tough, but remember that if you can make it through everything life throws at you then there’s nothing stopping you from becoming who you want to be!

We don’t take time for self-care

Skipping meals and neglecting our physical and mental health is a terrible way of managing stress and pressure in life – if we feel like we’re falling apart then how are we supposed to deal with all the pressures that come? When we fail to take care of ourselves properly, it affects every area of our lives; work suffers because instead of concentrating on what needs doing (and doing it well), we’re worrying about not taking care of ourselves, and personal relationships suffer because we’re too tired and miserable to be the people that our friends or family need us to be!

We give up on our goals

At some point in life, many of us will find that we don’t quite manage to achieve everything that we’d hoped for. It can be easy to give up at this point, but what’s most important is to learn from your mistakes. You might realise that you were aiming too high or chasing the wrong things – success isn’t always about getting exactly what you want when you want it, sometimes it can come in ways you couldn’t have predicted!

We stop having fun

Having fun and enjoying life is important! It’s easy to get wrapped up in our work or other responsibilities and forget to have a little fun every once in a while, but we should never stop trying. Life can be fun if we choose for it to be – this is what makes coming of age stories so interesting!

We focus too much on achieving perfection

The quest for perfection can be an interesting one. On the one hand, it’s great to strive towards excellence… but on the other hand, is excellence really what matters most? Sometimes it’s okay (and maybe even more realistic) to settle for good enough.

We don’t make time for travel/adventure

It’s important to explore the world around us and experience new things! Even if you’re not able to go travelling, there are always ways of experiencing different cultures – documentaries on Netflix are a good start or you could try cooking some traditional recipes from another country instead of your usual dinner choice!

We don’t take enough time for reflection

Some of us tend to get a little preoccupied with our own lives and can forget just how important it is to stop and remember where we’re going in life. Remember that every day counts – even if you feel like your life doesn’t matter or things aren’t going well, there’s always something good about the way you live your life, whether it’s the people around you or simply living independently!


And there we have it: 19 ways in which we all fail in life! It’s important not to get too hung up on these things though; try thinking about them as fun quirks and flaws rather than things that set us so far apart from who we want to be. We all fail sometimes but it’s important to remember that these failures are what makes us all so special. Thanks for reading!

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