When someone tells you that you’re not good enough, or smart enough, what do you tell yourself? We tend to believe the things people say about us. But who are they really- just another person with their insecurities and problems. No one is perfect, so don’t let them make you feel bad about yourself! Here’s how to stop putting yourself down:
Be your own best friend
It’s tough to be nice to other people when they’ve hurt us, but even tougher to be nice to ourselves when others have hurt us! If you make yourself out to be the enemy in your head, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever do well enough in life. Be nice to yourself; tell yourself everything is going to be okay. Remind yourself why you’re special and what makes you unique!
After your mean voice has stopped trying to tell you all the reasons why you suck, start telling yourself what you like about yourself. It can be easy and even fun to find one thing at a time that you like about yourself. You might not think of compliments as often as others do, but by consciously thinking of something good each day, it’ll become easier and more automatic!
This is similar to complimenting yourself but for different in the sense that it helps with really low points. When people are down on themselves or feel depressed they need kindness and reassurance just as much as they would during any other tough time. Remember that this is normal for everyone and remind yourself to practice self-compassion!
Make time for self-care
It’s easy to put ourselves last on the list, but that’s not good for anyone! Giving yourself some time each day to relax and rejuvenate is important. This could be anything from reading a book in bed before falling asleep, taking a long bath or writing in your journal. Just make sure that whatever you choose, it’s something that makes you happy and relaxes you!
Set realistic goals for yourself
Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to be perfect! It’s okay to make mistakes, and in fact, it’s a good thing. When we set goals that are too high, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. Aim for goals that you know you can achieve with some effort- this will help boost your confidence and motivate you to keep going!
Stop comparing yourself to others
This is one of the quickest ways to start putting yourself down. We’re constantly bombarded with images of people who seem to have perfect lives, but remember that no one is perfect! Everyone has their problems and insecurities, even those you might envy. Remember that nothing is as it seems.
Give compliments often
Compliment people, you admire often to help boost your confidence. Not only will this make them feel good, but it’ll also remind you of how wonderful other people are too! Sometimes we can be so focused on our problems that we forget the great things happening in the world.
Have realistic expectations for others
When we expect people to do the best they can and treat them like they’re perfect, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment when it doesn’t happen. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect! The sooner you let go of your unrealistic expectations, the better off you’ll be.
Seek out support
Talk to someone you trust about your feelings and struggles. It can be really helpful to have an outsider’s perspective, and it might make you feel better just to get things off your chest. Talking openly about how you’re feeling is a great way to start putting yourself down less often!
We all mess up sometimes, but that doesn’t mean we’re bad people! We need to be able to forgive ourselves to move on. If you find yourself constantly beating yourself up for your mistakes, it’ll only be harder to stop putting yourself down in the future. So take a deep breath, tell yourself it’s okay, and move on!
Remind yourself that you’re enough
No, really. You are! Reminding ourselves that we’re good enough is a great way to stop putting ourselves down- and the best part? It’s true. We’re all unique and special in our ways, so remind yourself of this when you find yourself feeling bad about yourself.
Spend time with positive people
If your friends aren’t supportive or understanding, it might be time to make some changes. Surrounding ourselves with people who love us for who we are can make all the difference in our self-esteem! If you don’t have friends like that, look out for them at support groups or online forums where they might exist!
Let go of your need for control
One of the main reasons we put ourselves down is because we’re trying to control things that are out of our reach. When we realize that we can’t control everything, it’s easier to relax and let go. This doesn’t mean giving up or not trying our best, it just means accepting that things might not always turn out the way we want them to.
Identify your triggers
Something that sets off your self-doubt? Once you know what these are, you can start working on avoiding them or dealing with them more healthily. Maybe you get down on yourself after a bad day at work, or when you compare yourself to others online. Identifying your triggers will help you start to address the root of your self-esteem issues.
Know that you’re not alone
Everyone has been there before, so don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. It’s perfectly okay to have bad days and feel down on yourself from time to time- the important part is what we do next! If you start putting yourself down, take a deep breath and remind yourself of why things are going well in your life. We all deserve better than being put down by ourselves- let’s knock this self-putdown habit once and for all!
We hope these tips help you start putting yourself down less often! Remember that it takes time and patience to start seeing changes, but eventually, you’ll be able to see how wonderful you truly are. And that’s something worth celebrating!